Time and Attention: The Greatest Gifts for the One You Love

holding_handsAre you going on vacation this summer?

I’m all for vacations.

In fact, I so believe in them that I take one every week.

No, I don’t go away several days every week; I still need to make a living! But every Friday since the beginning of the year, my husband and I have taken off… together.

We’ve rambled around the city (New York City, that is). We’ve gone to museums and movies and art exhibits. We’ve walked here and there. We’ve held hands. We’ve eaten good food.

We’ve also stayed home and read novels. We’ve talked, and we’ve been quiet.

Setting Aside Time to Be Together

Actually, what we’ve done isn’t nearly so important as the fact that we’ve done it, and put aside regular time for each other.

I must confess that I had a bit of anxiety when I started telling fundraising clients, “I’m no longer working on Fridays.” They’d ask why and I’d say, “Because my husband and I have decided to spend Fridays together enjoying one another.”

The response? “That’s FANTASTIC!

When I tell people I don’t work on Fridays so I can spend time with my husband, more often than not they respond, “I should do that too.”

Yes! I agree. You should — and you can.

Setting aside regular time for someone you love shows that person you care and that she or he is a priority in your life. Others will work around your schedule.

What’s more, you may inspire them to start doing the same.

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Set aside specific, regular time to be with someone you love

Though it may not feel that way, with a simple decision and a bit of commitment you can pluck some time out of your regular hubub and devote it to someone who matters to you.

Find a bit… an hour, a half-day, or even a whole day… and set it aside every week. Your time and attention are the greatest gifts you can give.

Watch what happens.

Can you clear about a bit of time in your schedule to spend with someone special? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

  • Miguel

    You guys are awesome! Often, people trade the most important things in life for busy work and business schedules.

    • Andrea Kihlstedt

      Thanks Miguel for your lovely comment. It’s amazing how easy it was to simply set aside time once I made up my mind. No one complained that I wasn’t working then! Tyko loves it and so do I. Our Fridays are often quite special and we often make note of what we want to do during the week, so they actually play a bigger role in our conversation than just on Fridays.