Can’t Find Self-Discipline? Try Clemetin’s 3-Step Method

Clemetin pays his rent every month. That may not sound like a feat to you, but for Clemetin, it’s a big deal. Who is Clemetin? My friend Clemetin spent more than half of his life in prison. He’s done 27 years of “hard time” in some of the nastiest maximum security prisons of New York State (think Attica). If you've spent most of your life in a cell under the watchful eyes of prison guards, you probably haven't learned many of the basic life skills you'll need when you … [Read more...]

How to Be a More Productive Extrovert

Are you an extrovert or an introvert? To quote a remarkable graphic explanation of introversion and extroversion, people who are introverts make their own energy and, rather than taking it from others, they give it on social contact. They find interaction exhausting and need time to recharge. Extroverts, on the other hand gather their energy from their surroundings. They absorb the “good vibes” of the people around them and need a lot of social interaction. I know … [Read more...]

Six Tips for Writing Better Emails

Have you noticed that you seldom talk on the phone these days? That email and texting have just about replaced voice to voice altogether? For people of every age, that's what's happened. I'm a huge fan of email. I like getting it. I like writing it. I like it's quickness and informality and immediacy. And I love that I can delete an email without reading it and no one will be offended (for contrast, think of the problems caused by hanging up on someone!) Here are … [Read more...]

Overcoming Performance Anxiety: Reduce Stress and Be Your Best

This morning I recorded an interview with Steve Nill, my publisher at CharityChannel Press. He is making a promotional video for my newest book, Asking Styles, and he wanted to include an audio recording. He only needed about 3 minutes. No one listens to much more than that on the fly. But the shorter, the harder because it's got to be right! Right? Just before we began taping, I could feel my heart pound and my mouth get dry.  But then I remembered an old trick to … [Read more...]