Using Constructive Conversation to Push Past Anger

Anger takes too much energy to sustain for very long. And once it fades, it's time to put the pieces of your relationship back together again. If you sit with your anger for a few hours or days, it'll lose it's hold on you. That sharp, insistent sense of having been disrespected or betrayed gradually fades. After a few days, you might even forget who did what to whom and what was so hurtful. What Role Did You Play in the Dispute? Though you may still sense that you were … [Read more...]

How to Handle Anger: Let Your Curiosity Lead the Way

Ever been so annoyed with someone that you know you’ll say things you regret if you’re not careful? You feel that chest full of irritation. Your throat is tight and you are having a hard time breathing? It feels awful. How to Handle Anger What can you do? Yell? Rant? Curse? (Cursing’s always a good one for me ‘cause it gets me laughing inside.) But in fact none of those responses are particularly helpful. They just doesn’t lead to constructive steps … [Read more...]

My Friendship with a Felon

Meet Clemetin, my most unlikely friend. Nearly five years ago, I met Clemetin at St Mary's Park in the South Bronx where I exercise most mornings. I had no idea that he had spent most of his nearly 45 years in prison. Gradually, while we walked around the track at the park together morning after morning, I learned his story. But by the time I had learned enough about him to warn me away, we had become friends. Clemetin's story is both sad and uplifting. His life … [Read more...]