Yes You Can! Learning to Say “Wow!” instead of “Whoa”

Do your inner voices ever hold you back? Imagine this: A new potential client just called to ask you to submit a proposal for a big job. Great possibilities here. You're the perfect person for the task! You're excited. But then in an eye blink, your "Whoa" voice takes over. Whoa. Whoa. What makes you think you’re qualified to do that? Even though you have a lot of related experience, you’ve never done exactly that before. In fact, pretty much everything you’ve … [Read more...]

When is it Okay to Change Your Mind?

Stiffen your spine. Stop whining. Just get the job done. Muscle your way through. Live up to your commitments. You Made a Promise - Follow Through! I have a lot of those disciplinary voices in me. You probably do too. I don’t like to be late. I don’t like to disappoint myself. And I really don’t want to disappoint others. For the most part, when I say I’m going to do something, I get it done. But sometimes, in the excitement of the moment, I promise things to … [Read more...]

How Do You Make Decisions – Analytically or Intuitively?

Have you ever noticed that you make decisions in the same way over and over again? I don't mean that you make the same decision all the time, but the process you use to make decisions is probably quite consistent. The way you make decisions may be very different from the way your partner or friend or boss makes them. Understanding your decision-making style and the style of the people around you can make a big difference in how you get along. Analytic Decision Makers If … [Read more...]

How to Make Decisions to Expand Your Horizons and Life

Have you ever noticed that inertia often keeps you from doing things? Do you sometimes find that you don't do things because you're uneasy about them? For many -- even most people -- the natural tendency of inertia combined with a sense of fear keeps them from taking advantage of many wonderful opportunities that come their way. Advice For Generations Many years ago, my father gave me some advice about making decisions that has shaped much of my life. The other day, … [Read more...]

10 Letters to Live By

In the rush of your daily life, there are probably moments -- even days and weeks -- when you forget what's truly important. This ten letter alphabet list, developed by Dr. James R. Doty, Clinical Professor of Neurosurgery at Stanford, is a simple way to stay connected to what matters. C for Compassion. Open your heart for yourself and others. D for Dignity. Recognize the dignity of every human being. E for Equanimity. While acknowledging the ups and downs, try to … [Read more...]

The Open Door That is “No”

Are you afraid to ask people for things because you dread the possibility of hearing “no?” If so, why? Does hearing “no” feel like a personal rejection — as though the other person is saying that you aren't important or worthy? And if you feel that way, do you also have trouble saying “No” out of concern that you'll hurt someone's feelings? If you’ve answered “Yes” to either of these questions, think again! You’re short-changing yourself and unnecessarily limiting your … [Read more...]